Nowadays, it seems as if everywhere you turn, there’s always someone standing ready to offer their unsolicited advice on everything from how you should handle “this” situation to what you should do about “that” and so-on and so-forth. Then, to add insult to injury, they try to bait you in even further by trying to make you second-guess yourself and feel guilty about doing what you believe to be in your own best interest.
That’s just it, though—it’s your situation—a situation that you have to live with and navigate your way through to the other side. The sad reality is that these people have become so comfortable with sticking their noses in everyone else’s business that they don’t even see how their actions serve not so much as to help as they do to hinder forward progress toward resolving the actual problem. This is where we, first as women, then as wives, have to check this behavior as soon as it manifests from those people who profess to love and care about us so much, regardless of who that person may be.
Now it’s highly likely that these folks truly believe that they have your best interest at heart, which is all they need to allow themselves to think that it’s okay for them to poke their noses in your business; especially when it comes to proffering advice on how to handle the goings-on in your marriage. That faulty logic couldn’t be farther from the truth and here’s why; simply put, YOU DIDN’T MARRY THEM! Therefore, their opinion of how you “should” handle yourself in your marriage relative to what you “need” to do given your circumstances should be irrelevant.
The point here is relatively simple: Keep people out of your matrimonial business so that you and yours will at least stand a greater chance of making it to happily ever after. You just might save your marriage with these four simple word—and those words are ”MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!” However, it is equally important to note that on the flip-side of that coin is the fact that we, as women and as wives, should always be mindful of just how much of our matrimonial business we put out into the streets when we feel the need to “confide” in anyone other than our spouse.
So now, you’re probably asking yourself “how do I do that?” I know that you don’t want to be mean to anyone or say anything that might hurt someone’s feelings, but the truth of the matter is that there is there is a distinction that can be made between truly helpful advice that often comes from people who really do have your best interest at heart and the not-so-useful advice that usually comes from the people in your life who make it their business to keep their nose all up in your business. These are the people who will COMPLETELY wreck your marriage, your life, and all that you have IF you surrender your power to the influence of their voice instead of being guided by your own. The ultimate reality is that they’re NOT you, nor could they ever be. Therefore, their efforts to “help” you see your situation played out differently based solely upon their analysis of all the ways that they would live your life better than you do is just crazy.
Please don’t misunderstand what’s being said here. The purpose behind everything expressed herein is not to encourage anyone to reject the counsel of a licensed practitioner who is equipped to provide the level of guidance, support, and assistance needed to help you to navigate your way through/out of any type of abusive situation in which you’re being mistreated and/or victimized. If you’re currently in an abusive marriage and you’ve stumbled upon this post, please take whatever steps necessary to secure the advice, help, and support that you may need to help you make the safest, most informed decision regarding how to move forward.
I hope that I’ve clarified the difference between the advice that will come from those people who are actually in a position to help you navigate your situation for the better, and the advice that will come from those people who will always have something to say about your situation—good, bad, or indifferent. It’s not so much as what these people say as much as it is the aftermath of what they say if you choose to give whatever is said the power of your attention. #mindyourownbusiness